If your heart rate exceeds 94 beats per minute when you are in an argument with your spouse, you are “flooded.” That’s another way of saying that your brain has activated your body’s fight or flight response. Recognizing and responding to flooding are cornerstone relationship skills our couples counselors teach at Living Well. What Happens […]
Three Steps To Better Communication For Couples
If arguments with your spouse routinely escalate and end with hurt feelings and disconnection, the most likely culprit is in the way you begin the conversation. You can begin with harsh starts, or gentle starts. Which one of those you choose will almost always determine what happens next. Research shows that harsh starts trigger the […]
Three Effective Communication Techniques For Parents of Teens
As a parent, your words have power, even when it doesn’t feel like it. Learning effective communication is key to breathing new life into any relationship, and your relationship with your teen is no different. Incorporate these tips into your everyday conversations with your child and see the difference just a few changes can make. […]
The Four R’s of Forgiveness
“When we are tired, we are attacked by ideas we conquered long ago.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche In the #BGT method of living and growth, focussing on the present and all of its majesty and brilliance is a key. But there are times when our past creeps up behind us, nagging at our coat tails or infecting our minds […]
Ten Warning Signs Your Teen Might Need A Counselor
Is This Just Normal Teenage Behavior Or Does My Teen Need A Counselor? With all the changes and intense emotions teenagers experience, even their normal behavior can be concerning. It’s often hard for parents to know when professional help is necessary. Although counseling can always be beneficial, sometimes it’s truly essential. Look for any of […]
100% of What You’ve Got!
Sometimes it’s not easy to give your 100%. That’s alright. Let me share a personal story to explain why!
Five Reasons You Need an Executive Coach
Leaders in all organizations face hurdles. Executives in for and non-profit businesses often face barriers to upward mobility and managing dilemmas alike. An executive coach is someone with leadership skills who has no political interest and who only benefits from helping you to achieve your goals.
Creating Trust in Relationships
Every couple has an emotional bank account that uses trust as currency rather than money. The balance in that account determines how couples react when things go wrong in the relationship. It works just like a checking account. If you have plenty of money in the bank and learn that your car needs a new […]
Meta-Emotion Mismatch
There’s an old saying that there are two kinds of people in the world – those who believe there are two kinds of people in the world and those who know better. It’s funny because it’s true. But there is one factor we assess in Gottman Method Couples Counseling for which there truly are two […]
Culture of Appreciation in Marriage
Resolve to Create A Culture of Appreciation in Your Marriage If you want make a New Year’s Resolution that will improve your relationship in 2020 consider this – research shows that happy couples express appreciation toward each other 20 times for every one expression of complaint. These couples have what we refer to as a […]