Living Well is a Couples Counseling / Marriage Therapy Clinic in Neptune Beach, FL Offering Sessions Online and In-Person
- Are you feeling alone, even though you are in a relationship?
- Do you find yourself arguing over and over about the same things without ever coming to a resolution?
- Has your conflict become unproductive and overwhelming?
- Do you find that your relationship is less satisfying since having children?
- Are you feeling distant, uncared for, disrespected, or not loved by your partner?
- Is the intimacy gone?
- Are your problems hurting others you care about?
- Has there been an affair, or are you contemplating having an affair?
- Are you contemplating leaving?
- Is your relationship functioning fine, but you know there’s room for improvement?
If you answered yes to any of the questions above then you know that very few things affect your enjoyment of life or sense of well being as much as the state of your marriage. The great news is that improving the quality of your relationship is attainable. But it’s vital to choose a marriage counselor with training in methods that are proven and validated by research.
Living Well Offers Evidence-Based Couples and Marriage Counseling
At Living Well Therapy and Coaching our couples counselors David Tolbert and Jacqueline Frey are trained in both Emotion-Focused Couples Counseling and The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy, which is based on Dr. John Gottman’s research that began in the 1970’s and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. From this research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have created a method of therapy that emphasizes a “nuts-and-bolts” approach to improving clients’ relationships.
This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship. To help you productively manage conflicts, you will be given methods to manage “resolvable problems” and dialogue about “gridlocked” (or perpetual) issues. We will also work together to help you appreciate your relationship’s strengths and to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities.
What to Expect During Couples Counseling With Living Well
Gottman Method Couples Therapy at Living Well Therapy and Coaching consists of five parts:
- “Phasing Out” of Therapy
- Outcome Evaluation
Early in the assessment phase, you will complete The Gottman Relationship Checkup online, which will help us better understand your relationship. In the first sessions we will talk about the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals for treatment.
In the next session, we will meet with you individually to learn each of your personal histories and to give each of you an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings, and perceptions. In the final session of assessment, we will share with you our recommendations for treatment and work to define mutually agreed upon goals for your therapy.
Most of the work will involve sessions where you will be seen together as a couple. However, there may be times when individual sessions are recommended. We may also give you exercises to practice between sessions.
Many of Our Clients Ask How Long They Will Have to be In Couples Counseling
Most couples see us about 12 sessions over the course of treatment. The length of the therapy will be determined by your specific needs and goals. In the course of therapy we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfaction and progress. Also, we will encourage you to raise any questions or concerns that you have about therapy at any time.
In the later stage of therapy, we will “phase out” or meet less frequently in order for you to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for termination of the therapy. Although you may terminate therapy whenever you wish, it is most helpful to have at least one sessions together to summarize progress, define the work that remains, and say good-bye.
In the outcome-evaluation phase, as per the Gottman Method, four follow-up sessions are planned: one after six months, one after twelve months, one after eighteen months, and one after two years. These sessions have been shown through research to significantly decrease the chances of relapse into previous, unhelpful patterns. In addition, commitment to providing the best therapy possible requires ongoing evaluation of methods used and client progress. The purpose of these follow-up sessions then will be to fine-tune any of your relationship skills if needed, and to evaluate the effectiveness of the therapy received.